To do … or not to do?
September 11, 2014 | Tips
When in Rome, do as the Romans? Absolutely! If you want – it’s your day, your event. Make it intimate, make it wild. Destination weddings are often unconventional by their very nature. If a bride can kick off her pumps to traipse barefoot through the sand, how far can she go in kicking convention?
Here are some handy tips to keep in mind … and how to bend them without breaking a heart – or the bank.
Guest list. Your clearly-stated preference regarding children or adults-only dictates the resort you choose and who will come. Timing and the nature of your relationship with the guest also comes into play. Try not to dwell on who can’t join you. Some people just can’t find the time or the money. Still unsure about whom to invite? Keep in mind that you’ll be spending more time with your guests than you would at a regular wedding: Nobody goes home right after the party!
Invitations. With guest list, resort, and pricing finalized, it’s time to get this party started! E-mail is the easiest, most cost-effective, and green method to get the word to family and friends, both near and far. A brief description of the destination, a link to the resort, and a per-person cost in a simple WORD document (with an optional photo of the happy couple) will do nicely.Print a few invitations as mementos, or for those who may not be computer friendly.
Can’t attend? Some people may feel disappointed not to witness your special day. Incorporate technology such as Skype. Use photography and videography to bring key moments back to those left behind. Consider a small, simple reception at home – before or after – so they can participate in some way.
Who pays? Generally, the couple travels for free with a minimum number of guests. Usually, guests pay for themselves. If it’s important to the couple that someone attends, they might consider subsidizing the cost if it’s an issue. There are a variety of ways to do this – for example, you pay for three of five days. How nice!
Gifts. Once the domain of china and flatware, travel registries work well with destination weddings. It’s unfair to expect gifts from guests already paying for the week, so the registry is mainly intended for those who don’t attend. Choices range from excursions to spa treatments to little extras, like candlelight dinners. Generous guests who still wish to purchase a gift should leave the item at home and only bring a card indicating the gift details – a suitcase of potentially heavy or fragile items to lug back is not convenient!